AES32 “no one will date you if you’re such a feminist”

Believe it or not, people say this to me so often, many people including family members don’t really see why im a feminist. I always try to explain to them why Im a feminist, and why sexism and patriarchy are just toxic for everyone. The conversation usually starts with a family member trying to catch up with me, and then they ask the question that I hate the most. “So, do you have a boyfriend?” and we all know that im not dating anyone so I say “no, im not interested in dating. I want to focus on my school and my passion”. But they don’t take that as an answer and they keep asking more questions. 

They usually continue asking something like “Really, so you don’t like anyone at your school?” or “Maybe your single because you talk too much, or maybe because you are too picky.” At this point, I want to blow up, but I try to stay calm. I’ll just say something like “I just feel like it isn’t my timing, and it’s my choice” 

This is the good part, it’s when they hear about my feminist opinions. Because they will start saying sexist things, for example, like I shouldn’t be so ambitious, or I should start thinking about relationships or it would be too late. Being the feminist I am I fire back, is it necessary? It is, at least for me. Even tho my grandma thinks im overreacting. “I am a very independent person and I think investing in education and in a career is better and more promising than investing in a relationship. A man can leave me, but my education and my skills will always be with me.” 

This is the best part when they say “no one will date you if you’re such a feminist”, I will say “Good then because I don’t think I have the capability to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t support feminism. If he doesn’t support feminism it means he doesn’t support my rights as a woman which is basically my human rights? Do you think someone that doesn’t support my human rights actually loves me? I don’t think so.” 

I love looking at their faces because they are so shocked, they can’t even say a word. Because my statement was very strong, clear, and logical. So yeah I love firing back on sexist family members, it sometimes can be a good and bad thing. They can change their mind and support me, or they can hate me. Im okay with the risk tho, I don’t need sexist people in my life anyways. 

Have any of you guys ever dealt with something similar? And how did you deal with it? Feel free to share in the comments!

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