AES77 A Complete Life
Last night I was just about to sleep and I thought that I would scroll at TikTok for a little bit and this video of Taylor Swift. She was in an interview and she said “When I tell people how happy I am to be alone, and to be living my life on my own terms, and to be free and independent and empowered. The first thing they say to me is ‘oh don’t worry you’ll find someone’ and that is so not the point. What if your life completes itself. I wish people didn’t look at me like that’s something sad. That you living your life is exciting enough for you, and your not looking for anything else to complete you. I think that’s actually the most beautiful place I’ve been in my life ” And I was like “that literally so true”.
Because I hate it so much when Im talking about how happy I am to live my life by myself and how I feel like I am a complete person, people always say “don’t worry you’re so young you’ll find someone”. I don’t know if they understand that I don’t need that, it’s like they’re trying to reject my happiness of being independent. It’s almost like your forcing what means the most to you in my life. I understand that everyone has their own opinions and choices but you can’t try to force yours into mine.
Why can people see someone by themselves as something that’s complete? Im not trying to associate being in a relationship or a marriage as something negative, I think it’s wonderful but it’s not for everyone. Especially looking at how women are treated in society, people always criticize women’s choices and how they want to live their life. Even tho I have to admit it has gotten better over the year, but sexism still exists.
I always see men getting overpraised for being independent, but when a woman is independent people just think that she’s sad and lonely. It’s almost like there’s no possible way for a woman to be happy if she’s by herself.
So yeah, what have we learned today? That a human being, including a woman, can have a complete and happy life with or without a partner. And that women that are single in their 30s aren’t necessarily going to be old cat ladies, and if they do turn into old cat ladies it’s their choice.
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