AES84 Forgiving without an apology
When someone does something bad to you, it’s just very human of you to expect them to apologize, but sometimes they don’t. That creates such a complicated feeling. Especially when the person that did something bad to you, they’re someone that you trust but they disappoint you. And you thought they would apologize to you, but they don’t and it proves how that person doesn’t care about you.
Over the years I have tried to let go of the things that happened to me, and I tried to learn how to separate a person and their actions. Altho I believe that your actions really say a lot about your personality and you as a person. So now I let myself hate a certain action but not the person. For example, someone manipulated me during my childhood, I try to hate the subject of manipulation and not the person who did it to me. Altho they should be taking responsibility and being accountable for their actions but that’s not something I can control.
I think this really connects with my passion for feminism. I am a feminist because I hate the patriarchy, I hate violence against women, I hate how people objectify women, I hate how our society views women. That is based on what happened in my personal life. To be honest, if my family knew what feminism was and at least tried to build a gender-equal household my life would be so much better now.
I could be blaming the person that did those things to me, of course, I think I have every right to do that. But my blaming phase is over because some of those people don’t even think what they did to me was something wrong. So I don’t want to waste my energy thinking about them when they don’t even think what they did was inappropriate.
Even when I tried to talk to them they will forget that they ever did that. And they will say I am dramatic. Because for me it was super traumatic and for them, it was just a Wednesday I guess.
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