AES98 If I Was A Man
Yesterday, I saw a video on TikTok, the video was about this girl pointing out double standards on gender issues. I know I've written something about this, but I thought I could use a different perspective this time. I wanted to collect my personality triads that people have issues with, but in my opinion, it's not really about me it's about being a woman.
The first one is me being talkative and expressing my opinions. I don’t know why my whole life people have been telling me that I talk a lot, which is true, but why is it mostly in negative contacts. For example, one of my family members says that the way I talk is like a broken radio that cant hit pause, they like to mock me by repeating the words I say with a high pinch voice. But I know several friends and family that talk as much as I do but no one says anything about it, they get appreciated for that more than I do.
I have also been in many scenarios where my opinions were not taken seriously, especially by middle-aged men. They doubted that I understood what they were talking about, they didn't even consider listening to my opinion. Especially when I add feminism to the conversation.
One of the examples is when a male friend of mine asked me for relationship advice, and I added feminism into this conversation. Because when we talk about relationships it has everything to do with feminism and its history. But to them im just a crazy feminist woman who cant make valid points.
People would also question my abilities to lead because of my gender. When I do the same thing my male friend does, they call me bossy but they call my friend a good leader. Any reaction that I put out will be seen as over-reacting, people say that I am not a logical person, therefore I can't be a leader. Altho in my opinion, having a big heart is a good quality to have as a leader.
If I was a man simple things that I do daily would be praised, things like cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my sibling is impressive for a man. But because Im a woman those things become a responsibility.
If I was a man I’d be The Man.
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